Bottle Voyage

[pinksidekicking]

Who: Nimona & Everyone
Status: Open
Where: Everywhere
What: Messages in a bottle!
Warnings: Spam, some serious questions

A fun little icebreaker game where people can either make bottle spam or ask for serious advice! Feel free to tag other people's messages too! Make friends across the lines of Corsair and Paladin.

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[partybabysitter]

You simply ask. What manner of thing is not "usually requested" between people?

[ Just be honest!! That always works. ]

[tilfrosset]

[Being honest is good. But one has to get over the embarrassing feeling of shame first!]

There are things that happen in places like the Nautilust.

I am hesitant to say more.

[partybabysitter]

Ah, you mean in matters of sex.

You should have no reason to hesitate to share your feelings on this matter. If you are with someone who practices it, it can simply be a matter of initiating, and ensuring that both (or more) parties consent.

[tilfrosset]

I did not want to be so painfully blunt about it in what might perhaps be polite company, but yes.

Honestly, I cannot say that someone practices it. We...

Once. But we haven't spoken of that night since. I don't know if he enjoyed it or perhaps does not want to practice it again.

[partybabysitter]

Unless one uses vulgarities to describe it, there is nothing about the discussion of sex that is unfit for polite company.

If you have not discussed the matter following your first intercourse, then you must remedy that immediately. Too much can go unsaid, between assumptions and presumptions, that can devolve into greater miscommunications as you further your relationship.

[tilfrosset]

I was under the impression a lady outside of those districts does not speak on those things. Perhaps I have been told wrong.

We have not, though to be truthful, there were certain events that prevented much talking between us at all. My problem lies in bringing up the topic about us at all, much less in that manner. I just do not know how.

[partybabysitter]

Perhaps in your world this is the case. It is not, in mine.

[ Have you met Holga Kilgore? She'd never hold back. ]

If you find it is too difficult to broach the subject in person, why not try a letter to pen your feelings to page? This will give you ample time to gather your thoughts and tell him that you are interested in repeated coitus. If he is also willing, of course.

[ He almost gave good advice without sounding weird, good job, Xenk. ]

[tilfrosset]

[A sitdown with Holga would probably scandalize Jill, but also be sorely needed to bring her up to speed on life in general]

I did not consider that which may make me appear foolish for here I am, writing to the sea with my problems. Though how to word things remains the problem. I do wish there were some sort of tome on these issues.

[There is, dear sweet Jill. You just have to dip back into the shelves in the back of the libraries.]

Does it come easy to you? Talking about such subjects in plain.

[partybabysitter]

[ Get her to the smut section of the library, stat! ]

There are likely all manner of tomes on the subject of sex and romantic relationships. Romance is a good deal more complex, but sex is largely far more simple.

In writing, you may start a draft and refine it until it is right. Share your true, honest feelings, and the things you enjoyed about the act, and your partner should feel honored to be privy to your estimations.

I have no issue sharing my honest thoughts on any subject. Of course one must be aware of one's audience, as well as the appropriateness of the discussion, but I am ever more at ease speaking the truth than holding back and discussing matters through euphemism and metaphor.

[tilfrosset]

Admittedly, I also know little of romance and courting methods. Though, now that I think about it, he did take me to see the snowdaisies back home during a time where we were afforded some privacy. That does count, does it?

[Little does she know Clive had to be kicked into gear to do that in the first place by his little brother, but what Jill doesn't know won't hurt her.]

I envy you. My opportunities to discuss things of this nature to anyone at all have been very few and limited to only basic educational lessons from the Ducal tutors such as how that time spent between a man and a woman can result in children. Anything outside of that fell to the wayside due to some unpleasant events that happened during my earlier years.

[Unpleasant is an understatement.]

[partybabysitter]

A quiet moment spent among flowers can be romantic, if you judge it thus.

[ It's all about you, girl!! Though as far as dates go, that's a pretty obvious one. ]

I am sorry to hear that the circumstances in your world did not allow for a freer expression. Such limited discussion is considered antiquated in my world. I hope you are able to express yourself with more certainty here. We are all of us deserving of freedom of expression, in all things. Matters of sex included.

[ I'm sorry the unpleasant thing flew over his head, as many things do... ]

[tilfrosset]

I think so. I enjoyed myself, appreciated that he remembered we should have visited the flowers as children, and I crafted him a garland. Poorly, I may admit, but he kept it nonetheless.

[It was much a date as any. Not like they had movie theaters or nightclubs in their timeline.]

Freedom of expression is something that was little afforded to me through my life. Only once has someone ever asked what I wanted. Everything else was either demanded of me regardless of my wishes or a decision made for me with none of my input.

[Well, it doesn't help she was being vague, so no worries there.]

[partybabysitter]

A gift from one's lady love is as valued as the greatest treasure, I am sure.

[ Y'all have the makings of a very fairy tale romance, in Xenk's opinion. ]

It is a great injustice that you faced, though one more common than we could ever hope. You have my sympathies for enduring such a life. I should hope you will find better circumstances here, if not elsewhere.